If you’re anything like the rest of the world you turn to self-help content for answers on how to change your life. You scour books, blog posts, and videos in hopes to find that one nugget that will finally change it all. That one little thing or secret you’ve been missing to shift your world and tread a new path toward success, happiness, and a new life.
But let’s be honest. When was the last time some post or article changed your perception that led to real action? When did some little quote on social media or guru on Youtube trigger you to get up and make some significant changes? Just think for a moment, I’ll wait.
One simple thing
I’ve written about self-improvement before and what it’s really doing to our brains, but here I want to propose a different solution. A solution that can be instantly enacted no training, studying, or rehearsing required. A jumping off point that puts you in a position of action without any self-help skills.
Simply ask: “What else can I do?”
Whenever you’re with others working, helping, lending a hand, just ask what else you can do.
Years ago when I was in graduate school I was in a class for student teachers. We had to teach a class at a local high school on health subjects. One student in particular said something that stuck with me to this day. He always reacted to anything with, “I’m here to help.”
He said it in such a way that you couldn’t help but feel like he was poised for action, ready to lend a hand, eager to get involved. No matter the environment, he was always there to help.
Asking what else you can do takes the focus off of yourself. It shifts the focus from you to others. Current self-improvement literature most-likely will always come from a selfish place. “What can I do for me?” “How can I improve myself?” “How can I get better?”
Switching the focus on others takes the pressure off. It leaves little to no room for self-reflection which can be nearly debilitating at times. You go from selfish to selfless. Self-centered to always available.
Many of us can get caught up in the self-help lifestyle. We’re so busy trying to improve ourselves we forget what’s around us. We forget that the world needs our help. Others need our help.
Instead of curling up by yourself with the latest self-help book, we are able to instantly take real action in the world around us. We’re able to affect people in a positive way and begin to see that all those blog posts amounted to very little.
This new mindset isn’t without it’s challenges. As we’re cozy and comfortable curled up with our little self-help book, we’re now asking ourselves to get up and take action. To breach our comfortable shell of self-study and look outward.
But what does the end result look like? How will this help us see things from a new perspective? If our end goal is to still improve our situation how does looking to help others accomplish this?
By always being available, by asking what else you can do you create a positive atmosphere of giving, helping, and connecting. You connect with others in kind, you spread the good graces of selfless action, and, in turn, you start to evolve into a different person.
You start to realize real, significant change in your life. You make an impact, a difference. In the meantime, you start experiencing self-improvement without the latest guru telling you in another how-to post.
What else can you do?
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